Answering ?'s from Bi Friends

My Cyber bi-friend still had more ?'s for me.  She feels discriminated against.  I tried to explain further why lesbians don't want to hang with bi' women...

Oh you don't piss me off, it's okay.  The answer, tho is simple:  Look what

 

happened to Ellen...  Ann left her for a man.  She likes both.  

 

  The pain was enormous & definately NOT worth it.  I did like both in the

 

 beginning.  Loved both, actually.  I do think it's natural to be just sexual. -not

 

 hetro or homo.  But we all LEAN more in one direction than another.  That is

 

 what I feel makes the difference.  I loved men.  But I HAD to be with women. 

 

 And it wasn't easy.  The pain was just as bad in the beginning.  (Mainly

 

because I went with someone just like my mother... but Worse. )  Yet I STILL

 

 wanted to stay with her, I wanted to be a good lesbian.  Thank God, Goddess,

 

 Universe that I got out of THAT relationship.  What a bitch. I would have

 

probably stayed until she killed me.   And she hated that I had loved men.

 

 

     As for women hating men, that's simple.  They are just assholes.  Yes, there

 

are some that are good, & there are some women that are assholes too,  but

 

 quite frankly let's face it.  They are Loosers!!!!   Look at all the advantages

 

men, (esp WHITE men in America) are born into, the male privilege they grow

 

up with, the entitlement they Always feel...  And yet look how badly they have

 

fucked EVERYTHING up in the world, esp their women & children.  They are

 

to see thru, & they are easy to disdain.  Lesbian's can't stand them because

 

 they get all the advantages in this world that we don't.

 

 

  Fucking them for me was great!  I like sex.  But, Their emotional development

 

sucks. There are some I do like/love.  My brother.  A guy named Leonard. 

 

 Some gay men.   My father.  And Charlie, my ex, turned wonderful before he

 

died thru recovery & 12 step programs....  are some that come to mind. 

 

 

       So I don't totally hate them all.  They're here, we have to live with them. 

 

 But if the world were all women, I would not miss them.  Since it is not, I have

 

to learn to become tolerant of the motherfuckers.  But the majority disgust me. 

 

 And believe me, I've seen & known thousands in my 37 yrs of flying.  Patooie! 

 

 You can have them all!

 

     I really don't know what else to say to try to explain it.  If you feel you are

 

discriminated against in the same way as being a black person, perhaps you are

 

 right...  I relate in being discriminated against for being homosexual, being a

 

woman & being old now.  Ageism is for real.  And that will only get worse. 

 

 

      I become enraged when Doris is discriminated against because of her color. 

 

 In my opinion, she is one of the MOST beautiful persons ever!  Ignorance runs

 

rampant, probably always will.  So maybe all of this is just pure ignorance, as

 

each of our personal preference abounds.  I don't know.  *We can't change what

 

 we don't care to change.*  As for myself, I have too much to still work on

 

 personally before I come around to tolerance for bisexual behavior.  We all

 

need to be happy.  If living bisexual makes you happy, so be it!  I have known

 

you as a human being, not a sexual human being.  It is not really part of our

 

relationship.  I am not sexual with you, nor you with me.  To you, I assume that

 

is who you feel you are meant to be.  To me, it would be like sleeping with the

 

enemy.  I do not wish to do this.  If you do, then so be it.  We are on different

 

paths anyway, altho' we Do have some things in common. 

 

 

     I just wish you the best in all you want & do.  I wish for neither one of us to

 

be hurt.  And I enjoy our discussions, whether we agree or not.